Sometimes life sucks. People are mean, Teachers make dumb mistakes, Bosses are blind, and our family pushes our buttons. When you or your kids are feeling down in the dumps, it’s important to give yourself permission to feel it. Take a break from blaming & complaining and LABEL THE FEELING: mad, sad, embarrassed, frustrated, disappointed, scared. Finding & labeling the AUTHENTIC EMOTION is powerful. It honors you and your feelings. Worry, stress, anxiety are not emotions, they are a mental distraction that only create more worry, stress and anxiety. Naming an emotion contains it. Suddenly, what used to feel overwhelming,
Somehow we Moms have bought into the idea that because we have the opportunity to “do it all”, we should not only “do everything” but do everything well and at the same time! There is an expectation, perpetuated by the media, but also by ourselves, to contribute to the family finances, keep a tidy home, cook healthy meals, volunteer, keep children clean and healthy, stay fit and active, dress fashionably, look good, have good friendships, healthy family relationships, satisfying sex lives, and raise respectful, bright, athletic, talented children who also do everything well. Last weekend I had the opportunity
I work with a lot of supermoms. They would never call themselves super, though, they are more likely to call themselves failures. They are measuring their success by how much they accomplish in a day. But we are living in a time where the expectations on what Mom “should” accomplish in a day are very high. We feel the pressure not only to raise our children but to keep a clean home, a happy husband, stay fit, cook healthy meals, bring home income, maintain friendships, and to do all these things WELL. Not only do them WELL but also, because
Sarah was exhausted. No matter how many activities she scheduled for her son, he always wanted more. She worried about overbooking him (and herself) but every time they had a day at home, he ended up climbing the walls and driving her crazy. Julie was frustrated. At home, her daughter was exuberant and talkative, but out in public, she shut down. She scowled and clung when people tried to talk to her and refused to participate in activities. Julie couldn’t understand how her daughter could act so rude to people who are just being nice. When parents feel calm and
I love the fresh start of the new year. My kids and I are pulling out our vision boards and magazines and dreaming and about an even more ideal life. Right now, my list of resolutions is so long it’s likely none of them will come true. So while I choose which ones to focus on, I thought I’d share with you my 7 steps to creating successful change. Teaching kids how to make dreams come true and accomplish goals is one of the greatest things we can teach.
News of the shooting in Newtown, CT. is vibrating through my body. I can feel the weight of it: the suffering, fear, shock, desperation, anger, and grief. It shows up in me as real, physical pain: stomach ache, headache, tension in my neck, jaw, abdomen, crushing chest, and a feeling like boiling blood I know well as anxiety. I live on the opposite side of the country and yet I am connected to those parents, teachers and kids at Sandy Hook Elementary in a very real way. When I was a kid, and heard tragic news like this, I didn’t
“I need some money and I need it now. I don’t care what I have to do, just please hire me. I’ll do anything.” Does that make you want to hire me? If so, help-a-holics anonymous might be your next stop. Most people are turned off by desperation. Just like that kid sophmore year that wouldn’t stop calling & following you around, desperate energy repels people. Whether you are looking for a job, a partner, a babysitter, or a contractor, never do it from desperation, hate, or fear. “I can’t stand my job and I just need to work