…and I’m freaking out….is usually the sentence that follows when Moms come to me with this situation.
In order to help your teenager in this situation, you’ve got to coach yourself first and step out of FUTURIZING & CATASTROPHIZING.
It is very common for parents to imagine the worst case scenario: “He’s going to be a bum on my couch playing video games! No college is going to want her! She’s failing and I need to do something about it!” Many of us like to throw ourselves into the mix and say “If she’s failing, then I’m failing as her parent!” This panicky energy will make kids resist and rebel, pushing against us and not allowing us to help them.
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